A couple of weeks ago, I was enjoying dinner & drinks (oh, who am I kidding, more like "drink;" mama can't hang anymore) with an old girlfriend. We were reminiscing about the good ole days, funny stories and how all those little happenings along the way shaped our lives today. We might not have known it at the time, but there were so many moments that ended up changing the course of our lives. Many times we don't realize how much impact one decision or one instance can have on your life, until you are looking back, retrospectively. There are so many life-changing moments that shape each of us for the rest of our lives: Heartbreaks, studying abroad, choosing a university, more heartbreaks, getting married, not getting married, having children, not being able to have children, having a miscarriage, getting into a car accident, cancer, starting a new job, moving, and the list goes on. So many changes in my life have turned out to be wonderful, like getting married at the ripe old age of 20, and later, becoming a mom. Several changes haven't been great, and most of the time, change is scary.
I decided to change things up, once again, and recently resigned as director of Big Brothers Big Sisters. This was not an easy decision, as I truly believe in the mission and goals of this organization. We are in the business of making friendships, and I think you would be surprised to realize just how much of a positive impact a mentor can make in a child's life. The experience at BBBS has been life-changing, and from a professional standpoint, I feel I have grown leaps and bounds and gained so much experience during my time with this agency. I was so committed to working full-time, juggling new mommy-hood, still having a relationship with my hubs and maybe at the end of the day, having 20 minutes to enjoy a glass of wine and a few pages of a good book. But the minute they laid that 9lb blue-eyed boy on my chest, I had no idea just how much he would change my day-to-day routine, my priorities and my perspective on the lifestyle I wanted to lead.
I think this decision seemed extra scary, because unlike other situations in our lives, this very clearly creates a "fork in the road," and I made the decision fully aware that I was yet again changing my course. I am looking forward to starting a new chapter, as I devote more time to my boys and myself, while working for Flint Hills Technical College.
One of my favorite quotes, "The only thing constant is change," is the perfect reminder to roll with the punches, be open to opportunity and realize that new and unexpected changes are part of life. While I am sad to close one door, I fully welcome the new experience that awaits behind another door.
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
Sunday, May 6, 2012
I ran into our nurse from the Birth and Women's Center, who was on staff during our birth and delivery. We were both enjoying an unusually hot afternoon walk with our families (coincidentally, she happens to be our neighbors' daughter, and was home for a visit). Seeing her made me think back to the day Owen was born, which seems like a lifetime ago. I am still so thankful for the wonderful experience we received at the Birth Center. The day was so relaxed and laid back, and I like to think that the way we welcomed our little guy into the world kind of set the pace for our lifestyle, and the days, months and years ahead. We have been blessed with a laid back, cheerful little dude who always seems to have a smile on his face. Our days are usually pretty relaxed, and we try not to get too worked up over the little things.
Of course, I am writing this after a particularly bad-mom type of day, so I think I am trying to remind myself of how great life is any other given day. Usually, these bad days are rarities, and are determined by how much mama gets to sleep the night before. Thanks to the side-effects of teething, the bambino has been letting everyone know just how uncomfortable he is, right around 2 or 3am in the morning. Getting through those nights can be rough, but that's the name of the game. No one said this parenting stuff would be a cake walk, and--luckily--no one can claim they are the perfect parent. Yet, in spite of a rough day here and there, I strive to keep that peaceful and joyful vibe that we worked for during pregnancy and that we wanted for the arrival of our son. Each day holds new challenges, new joys, and new reasons to laugh, smile and cry. Becoming a mother has taught me so many life lessons, and has reminded me to live in the present, with intention, a grateful heart and open mind. I am thankful we are content just doing our own thang, not pressured to live up to any one's expectations or guidelines. We are creating our own life, one day at a time, taking the bad with the good, and looking forward to every adventure along the way.
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Of course, I am writing this after a particularly bad-mom type of day, so I think I am trying to remind myself of how great life is any other given day. Usually, these bad days are rarities, and are determined by how much mama gets to sleep the night before. Thanks to the side-effects of teething, the bambino has been letting everyone know just how uncomfortable he is, right around 2 or 3am in the morning. Getting through those nights can be rough, but that's the name of the game. No one said this parenting stuff would be a cake walk, and--luckily--no one can claim they are the perfect parent. Yet, in spite of a rough day here and there, I strive to keep that peaceful and joyful vibe that we worked for during pregnancy and that we wanted for the arrival of our son. Each day holds new challenges, new joys, and new reasons to laugh, smile and cry. Becoming a mother has taught me so many life lessons, and has reminded me to live in the present, with intention, a grateful heart and open mind. I am thankful we are content just doing our own thang, not pressured to live up to any one's expectations or guidelines. We are creating our own life, one day at a time, taking the bad with the good, and looking forward to every adventure along the way.
Not even 12 hours old...already back at home, brand new and oh-so perfect.
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Fast forward--8 months later. What a ham!
Life is good...Almost nine months!
Thursday, April 26, 2012
Weeknight Addiction
I need to remind myself that nothing on Bravo TV is worth staying up past my bedtime. Damn you, Bethenny Frankel and The Real Housewives. I just can't quit you. You are my sweet indulgence, my weeknight addiction. I can't stop watching, because I am utterly repulsed and fascinated at the same time. I can't say that I "identify" with these over-the-top, extravagant women; I think I am more in awe of their behavior and lifestyle than anything else. It is like watching a bad train wreck, or scary scene in a movie. You don't want to watch, but you just can't pull yourself away. It is a sickness. A disgusting waste of time that I just can't get enough of.
I mean, really?! What is it with these women??
I mean, really?! What is it with these women??
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Weekend Fun
Every now and then, things fall in to place and you have the perfect weekend. That was the case at the Hopkins Casa this past Saturday & Sunday. By Friday, we were all aching to get outside & see the sun. Just the luck of local students, it always seems to be rainy, yucky weather over Spring Break. I know we will be grateful for all the rain, when our garden is in full bloom and ripe for the pickin'!
The weekend did not hold any extraordinary events, just ordinary activities that were extra special :) We road tripped to our favorite lil' town, Council Grove, for a little fishing at the dam, walking around downtown and a yummy homemade lunch at the Trail Days Cafe. More fishing at Grandma Rene's, a long walk around the neighborhood, lounging in the grass, and just being lazy. Picnic in the backyard, reading and playing under the shade of the oak trees, and cooking up a little magic in the kitchen. By Sunday night, we were just plain pooped from all the fun we had.
To say we are excited for warm weather, Spring and Summer is an understatement. Usually after the holidays, we experience a full onset of stir-crazy, cabin fever that can only be cured by sunshine, sandals, and a fishing pole, of course! Looking forward to many more fun weekends ahead!
The weekend did not hold any extraordinary events, just ordinary activities that were extra special :) We road tripped to our favorite lil' town, Council Grove, for a little fishing at the dam, walking around downtown and a yummy homemade lunch at the Trail Days Cafe. More fishing at Grandma Rene's, a long walk around the neighborhood, lounging in the grass, and just being lazy. Picnic in the backyard, reading and playing under the shade of the oak trees, and cooking up a little magic in the kitchen. By Sunday night, we were just plain pooped from all the fun we had.
To say we are excited for warm weather, Spring and Summer is an understatement. Usually after the holidays, we experience a full onset of stir-crazy, cabin fever that can only be cured by sunshine, sandals, and a fishing pole, of course! Looking forward to many more fun weekends ahead!
Grabbing a bite at the Trail Days Cafe. All homemade, and delicious!
Let's get this party started, Mom!
Monday, March 19, 2012
Out with the old....
Spring. Glorious, beautiful, brand new spring. I look forward to these first few weeks every year; the jonquils and redbuds bringing the dull gray landscape to life, the seedlings for our garden sprouting to life under our watchful care. What an awesome time to revitalize and renew! So as the saying goes...out with the old, in with the new!
Since baby, I have been feeling pretty old, worn out and I sure don't see much to look at when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. The other day I took our husky, Meeka, for a walk--just the two of us. We haven't been sans stroller for months, and I felt strangely independent. I love being a mommy and love that little butterball more than life itself, but it is nice to reclaim a few pieces of the old me. I have become so used to being a "we," that I forgot about so many of the things I loved and enjoyed before motherhood. So, I am fully embracing Spring as a time for renewal. I am bringing my focus and attention to three words: Simplify, Cleanse, Enjoy.
Simplify starts with the most obvious: my casa. A little spring cleaning is a great way to start, and makes me feel so accomplished afterwards! I'm sure Brandon will be thrilled, but honestly, he is a better "deep cleaner" than I am. I usually get so overwhelmed by the amount of cleaning that needs to be done, that I just end up half-assing everything until it's about four o'clock and time for a wine break :)
Simplifying things not only includes de-cluttering not only my home (and my car--yikes!), but also my mind. Back in the day, I realized one of my priorities and values was being aware and present in the moment. I have a tendency to over-analyze EVERYTHING--props to my husband for putting up with this--and lately I cannot seem to quiet my mind. I am starting to think that "baby brain" really does exist; if I'm not thinking about the twenty three things I forgot to take care of at work, I am thinking about chores that need to be done at home, how to be a better mother, how to squeeze in some hubby time, the seven emails and five texts I haven't replied to, oh the list goes on. So to really get the ball rolling on simplifying my life, I am going to revisit my old standby, my wise friend, Yoga. This is one of the best things I can do for myself; I can totally submerse myself in the breath, the pose, the moment and something amazing happens. My mind goes quiet. Maybe just for a few seconds, but I love those moments of peace and clarity, where you are aware of nothing but the inhale and exhale of your breath. Those are few and far between these days, so when I find a few moments of quiet, it is worth every second. I look forward to picking my yoga routine back up, even if it is only a home practice until I find a class that fits my needs. Along with yoga comes the benefits of deep breathing, and meditating...by now, you are probably thinking--oh geez, another "crunchy" granola mom, but this stuff has really helped me in the past. Another outlet to simplify my mind is my journal. I have been journaling for years, and it is a great way to release all those thoughts. Get them out and move on. Feels good.
Cleanse: I have been itching to do a cleanse for several months, but since I am still nursing, I am going to incorporate a few safe, but still beneficial practices. I took a few ideas from Mama and Baby Love, my new favorite blog. Have you ever heard of oil pulling? Well, I hadn't either, but I gave it a try this morning. Basically, the oil is suppose to pull the toxins out of your body, as you swish, chew and gargle it in your mouth for 10-20 minutes. I tried it this morning, with cold-pressed olive oil, and only lasted about 10 minutes, while I was in the shower. I got my "directions" from this blog,
I am also cleaning up my diet. Good-bye chocolate chip cookies and soda, hello herbal tea and broccoli! I really do love the taste of real food, fruit and veggies, but I get sidetracked pretty easily. Since I have been making Owen's food for the last month or so, it has been easier to eat more vegetables and fruits. I really, seriously, absolutely need to make this a priority, since I am still breastfeeding. I have enlisted the help of my number one supporter, Brandon, to keep me on track. I know he can't wait :)
Clean eating is something I have dabbled in over the years, but never made a priority. Basically, eliminating as many processed foods as possible and upping the intake of whole grains, fruits and veggies. I am also going to go dairy and meat free (for at least a week--I know Brandon won't last more than a day or two!) and supplement with Standard Process nutritional shake & vitamins. You can only buy Standard Process from liscensed healthcare professionals, and I will never stop using their products. I buy mine from my chiropractor, Dr. Hawkins, at Emporia Chiropractic Center, and truly believe they have a significant impact on my immune system and overall health. This cleanse also means no caffeine for a week or two, which just sucks. I have the pounding headache to prove it, but I'm gonna make it!
I also need help cleansing my thoughts. Lately I have been feeling a lot of anger and negative energy for no apparent reason. Everything in my life totally kicks ass these days, and I feel beyond blessed, and I need to pass it on. Not sure why my mind continues to focus on the negative, un-important things that happen day to day. I have a 39 day challenge book that is collecting dust on a bookshelf. It gives you various tasks to help you enjoy life and realize what is important. The very first challenge is not passing judgements or thinking negative thoughts about others for 39 days. I tried that and only lasted two. Better luck this time around!!
Enjoy:
I also need to realize that doing a few things by myself is OK, like taking Meeka for a walk/run, reading a book, etc. I guess since I am away from baby and Brandon during the day, I don't want to miss any second with them after the work day ends. BUT if I am not feeling good about myself, then I know I am not being the best mommy/wifey I can be. So that pedicure I had on Friday---thanks, hubs! It is nice to treat yourself every once in a while. I am looking forward to simple ways to enjoy each day, that aren't necessarily money or time consuming. I also think one of the best ways to truly enjoy life is by being kind and "paying it forward" to others.
Whew! This was a little long-winded. See what I mean about my mind in overdrive with thoughts...feels better to get it all out. I also figure if I make a public "announcement", then I have more accountability as far as actually sticking to this stuff. I look forward to bringing back some of my "old ways," and incorporatin gnew ways to bring simplicity, cleansing and enjoyment to my life. Do you do anything to celebrate Spring and renewal? I'd love to hear!
Since baby, I have been feeling pretty old, worn out and I sure don't see much to look at when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror. The other day I took our husky, Meeka, for a walk--just the two of us. We haven't been sans stroller for months, and I felt strangely independent. I love being a mommy and love that little butterball more than life itself, but it is nice to reclaim a few pieces of the old me. I have become so used to being a "we," that I forgot about so many of the things I loved and enjoyed before motherhood. So, I am fully embracing Spring as a time for renewal. I am bringing my focus and attention to three words: Simplify, Cleanse, Enjoy.
Simplify starts with the most obvious: my casa. A little spring cleaning is a great way to start, and makes me feel so accomplished afterwards! I'm sure Brandon will be thrilled, but honestly, he is a better "deep cleaner" than I am. I usually get so overwhelmed by the amount of cleaning that needs to be done, that I just end up half-assing everything until it's about four o'clock and time for a wine break :)
Simplifying things not only includes de-cluttering not only my home (and my car--yikes!), but also my mind. Back in the day, I realized one of my priorities and values was being aware and present in the moment. I have a tendency to over-analyze EVERYTHING--props to my husband for putting up with this--and lately I cannot seem to quiet my mind. I am starting to think that "baby brain" really does exist; if I'm not thinking about the twenty three things I forgot to take care of at work, I am thinking about chores that need to be done at home, how to be a better mother, how to squeeze in some hubby time, the seven emails and five texts I haven't replied to, oh the list goes on. So to really get the ball rolling on simplifying my life, I am going to revisit my old standby, my wise friend, Yoga. This is one of the best things I can do for myself; I can totally submerse myself in the breath, the pose, the moment and something amazing happens. My mind goes quiet. Maybe just for a few seconds, but I love those moments of peace and clarity, where you are aware of nothing but the inhale and exhale of your breath. Those are few and far between these days, so when I find a few moments of quiet, it is worth every second. I look forward to picking my yoga routine back up, even if it is only a home practice until I find a class that fits my needs. Along with yoga comes the benefits of deep breathing, and meditating...by now, you are probably thinking--oh geez, another "crunchy" granola mom, but this stuff has really helped me in the past. Another outlet to simplify my mind is my journal. I have been journaling for years, and it is a great way to release all those thoughts. Get them out and move on. Feels good.
Cleanse: I have been itching to do a cleanse for several months, but since I am still nursing, I am going to incorporate a few safe, but still beneficial practices. I took a few ideas from Mama and Baby Love, my new favorite blog. Have you ever heard of oil pulling? Well, I hadn't either, but I gave it a try this morning. Basically, the oil is suppose to pull the toxins out of your body, as you swish, chew and gargle it in your mouth for 10-20 minutes. I tried it this morning, with cold-pressed olive oil, and only lasted about 10 minutes, while I was in the shower. I got my "directions" from this blog,
I am also cleaning up my diet. Good-bye chocolate chip cookies and soda, hello herbal tea and broccoli! I really do love the taste of real food, fruit and veggies, but I get sidetracked pretty easily. Since I have been making Owen's food for the last month or so, it has been easier to eat more vegetables and fruits. I really, seriously, absolutely need to make this a priority, since I am still breastfeeding. I have enlisted the help of my number one supporter, Brandon, to keep me on track. I know he can't wait :)
Clean eating is something I have dabbled in over the years, but never made a priority. Basically, eliminating as many processed foods as possible and upping the intake of whole grains, fruits and veggies. I am also going to go dairy and meat free (for at least a week--I know Brandon won't last more than a day or two!) and supplement with Standard Process nutritional shake & vitamins. You can only buy Standard Process from liscensed healthcare professionals, and I will never stop using their products. I buy mine from my chiropractor, Dr. Hawkins, at Emporia Chiropractic Center, and truly believe they have a significant impact on my immune system and overall health. This cleanse also means no caffeine for a week or two, which just sucks. I have the pounding headache to prove it, but I'm gonna make it!
I also need help cleansing my thoughts. Lately I have been feeling a lot of anger and negative energy for no apparent reason. Everything in my life totally kicks ass these days, and I feel beyond blessed, and I need to pass it on. Not sure why my mind continues to focus on the negative, un-important things that happen day to day. I have a 39 day challenge book that is collecting dust on a bookshelf. It gives you various tasks to help you enjoy life and realize what is important. The very first challenge is not passing judgements or thinking negative thoughts about others for 39 days. I tried that and only lasted two. Better luck this time around!!
Enjoy:
I also need to realize that doing a few things by myself is OK, like taking Meeka for a walk/run, reading a book, etc. I guess since I am away from baby and Brandon during the day, I don't want to miss any second with them after the work day ends. BUT if I am not feeling good about myself, then I know I am not being the best mommy/wifey I can be. So that pedicure I had on Friday---thanks, hubs! It is nice to treat yourself every once in a while. I am looking forward to simple ways to enjoy each day, that aren't necessarily money or time consuming. I also think one of the best ways to truly enjoy life is by being kind and "paying it forward" to others.
Whew! This was a little long-winded. See what I mean about my mind in overdrive with thoughts...feels better to get it all out. I also figure if I make a public "announcement", then I have more accountability as far as actually sticking to this stuff. I look forward to bringing back some of my "old ways," and incorporatin gnew ways to bring simplicity, cleansing and enjoyment to my life. Do you do anything to celebrate Spring and renewal? I'd love to hear!
Saturday, February 11, 2012
Happy Birthday...now get to work!
My birthday is coming up in a couple weeks, and like a good husband, Brandon asked me what I wanted. I said I couldn't think of anything, but he said he already had something in mind. Apparently, I had mentioned that it would be nice to have this "something" a while back, but he wouldn't tell me what it was. Twenty questions turned into forty questions, and I still had NO idea what the heck it was! "Something you plug in...it could be used in the bedroom...I would probably enjoy it just as much as you..." these were Brandon's clues, and by this point, my mind was in the gutter :P Oh, little did I know how un-sexy this gift actually was. Then he said it was a "replacement," and it hit me. A vacuum. For my birthday. Have I not taught this guy ANYTHING in the last 7 1/2 years we have been together??! True, I did mention wanting to replace our old vacuum cleaner, but not for my birthday! "Happy Birthday Honey...now get to work!" He said he was skeptical about giving that as a gift, because he knows how it feels to get an "appliance" as a gift. Last year, I got him an electrical skillet for his birthday. The kid loves to cook, grill, etc. and I thought it would be perfect for camp cooking. He has forgotten it at the lake, left it outside in the rain, snow, etc. and the thing still works! He says it's the gift that won't stop giving. I will NEVER live that one down!
After some thought, I was actually glad to know he really does listen to me when I talk! I'm sure he has endured more than his fair share of me telling him what to do, or presenting the latest research on why we should be doing things a certain way. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if I started the vacuum conversation with "...I just read an article about the number of allergens present in your house. AND, did you know over 98% of dust is dead skin?! That's just gross! We probably need to upgrade our vacuum." No joke, that's probably how the whole thing started!
Anyways, a new vacuum would be nice. Maybe one of these days. But a sweet love letter or card would be even better!
After some thought, I was actually glad to know he really does listen to me when I talk! I'm sure he has endured more than his fair share of me telling him what to do, or presenting the latest research on why we should be doing things a certain way. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if I started the vacuum conversation with "...I just read an article about the number of allergens present in your house. AND, did you know over 98% of dust is dead skin?! That's just gross! We probably need to upgrade our vacuum." No joke, that's probably how the whole thing started!
Anyways, a new vacuum would be nice. Maybe one of these days. But a sweet love letter or card would be even better!
Friday, February 10, 2012
Loves
You are six months old, and I love you more and more every day. I love the way your cheeks scrunch up when I tickle your chin. I love how you get the biggest smile when I walk in the room. I love the last long whisps of newborn hair that adorn the top of your little egghead. I love our morning cuddles, even if it is 4am. I wouldn't trade that special time for anything in the world.
I love your little baby feet. There will come a day when your stinky big boy feet will be the last thing I want to kiss and carress, so I am enjoying these new feets while they last. I love your fake cough, high pitched squeal and sweet baby giggle. Music to my ears...minus the squeal. I love your "panting puppy" sound, when you get excited over something. I love the teeny-tiny red birthmark on the bottom of your foot and I love that ticklish spot in the crease of your legs. I love singing our "nakie-baby" song and splashing around with you in the bathtub.
I love how you have given me a new perspective on life. My priorities have changed, for the better, and I thank you for that. I love being your mommy and I love you with all my heart.
Happy six months, Owen Tyler! You are my angel baby, my pride and joy, and my life just wouldn't be the same without you!
Lovin' on my 6 Month-er! He's getting SO big!
We got the giggles the other night...not the best quality, but the sound is what counts!
I love your little baby feet. There will come a day when your stinky big boy feet will be the last thing I want to kiss and carress, so I am enjoying these new feets while they last. I love your fake cough, high pitched squeal and sweet baby giggle. Music to my ears...minus the squeal. I love your "panting puppy" sound, when you get excited over something. I love the teeny-tiny red birthmark on the bottom of your foot and I love that ticklish spot in the crease of your legs. I love singing our "nakie-baby" song and splashing around with you in the bathtub.
I love how you have given me a new perspective on life. My priorities have changed, for the better, and I thank you for that. I love being your mommy and I love you with all my heart.
Happy six months, Owen Tyler! You are my angel baby, my pride and joy, and my life just wouldn't be the same without you!
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